External Voices.
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YOU CAN MAKE DECISIONS BASED ON HOW YOU TRULY FEEL AND WHAT MAKES YOUR SOUL HAPPY. DO NOT LET THEIR EXTERNAL VOICE, THEIR INSECURITIES, OR THEIR JEALOUSY BE LOUDER THAN YOUR INTUITION.”
Have you ever heard that if you talk to your flowers in a positive way that they will grow faster? Or have you heard that they will grow even stronger if you sing to them? It might be a myth and there might not be scientific evidence to these claims but who cares. There are a lot of things that we believe and carry with us that have no evidence to prove that belief, yet we believe it and live our lives thinking it is true.
Let me get to the point..I have been signing to my flowers that a special someone bought me last week. I talk to them, I give them a pep talk in the morning that they will be great and will grow into strong plants. Call me crazy, but hey I think it’s working. They look beautiful and I don’t know much about gardening but it seems they are thriving. It’s all about the environment right? Enough sun, enough water, enough flower food, enough love and care.
Were you raised in a thriving environment?
Do you feel like your mind is a thriving environment?
Do you feel like your friend circle is a thriving environment?
Do you feel like the things people say to you or scream to you or sing to you helps you grow or diminish?
Or are the things you are saying to yourself just a repeated recording of what they passed down to you?
Are these external voices positive or negative?
Are they even external or have they become your inner voice?
I ask all these questions because sometimes I believe I am making decisions based off my inner voice and my intuition. PLOT TWIST! I am just playing out what other people have swayed me to believe about myself. And I think a lot of us function this way. We look back on our life and question who we are. How did we get here? Why did we even make these decisions? Yea, yea, the cliche quote that everybody likes to say is “everything happens for a reason.” This blog isn’t about trashing that quote. This blog is about going deeper and asking what is the reason? Why do these things keep happening? Why do we keep making the same decisions that don’t make us happy? The exact decisions that are pulling us farther and farther away from where we want to be.
Someone told you you weren’t capable. You weren’t enough. You couldn’t do this or do that. Now you truly believe that. So every decision you make is attached to the fear that you can’t do it. Or maybe nobody said anything to you like that. Maybe their actions created an inaudible voice that told you you weren’t good enough. Maybe they abandoned you. Maybe their actions made you feel neglected and not worthy. So now their actions are attached to every action you make and you constantly doubt yourself. And you don’t even notice it. It’s all these subliminal, subconscious habits that are lived out every day that build into who we are. The bigger picture is that we all have this inner voice that is either negative or positive or a combo of both. We have to make the conscious decision to decipher which voice is truly coming from our inner self, our pure self, our soul. And throw away the voice that is telling us lies. The lies that we have believed for way too long. These voices are stopping us from accomplishing and achieving what we were created to achieve. We talk ourselves out of decisions because we were taught that those are the wrong decisions. But are they? Follow your heart. Not their voice.
I have said this in previous blogs and I’ll say it again and again and again until I truly believe it and until you truly believe it.
YOU ARE NOT A PRODUCT OF OTHER PEOPLE’S ACTIONS OR WORDS.
WHAT THEY SAID TO YOU DOES NOT EQUATE TO YOUR TRUE WORTH.
YOU DECIDE YOUR TRUE WORTH.
YOU DEFINE WHO YOU ARE.
Sit down today or tonight my gullies and really reflect on which decisions or lack thereof that you’ve made that have hindered you from being who you want to be. Their external voice will be implanted in your mind and you will mistake it for your inner voice the longer you do not separate the two. It is difficult. Sometimes we can’t even solve the puzzle until years later. All it takes is effort. Just keep trying. Keep pushing. Keep reflecting. And you will keep growing.
The best way to retrain your inner voice to be more positive is through affirmations.
Look some up.
Write your own.
Record your own.
Listen to as many as you need.
Your soul is craving for someone to encourage it.
If nobody else has ever been that voice, be that voice for yourself so you can bloom.
PEACE & LOVE.