Unorthodox Words Sneak Peek Pt. 2

Happy Valentine’s Day my gullies! I hope you are all receiving the love you deserve today. And if it is not from others, then let it be from YOU!

And me..

because I love ya’ll too.

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So we are back at it again with another sneak peek into Unorthodox Words. Since it’s the most lovey dovey holiday, I would post a poem about love, right? Of course I would. Not just any love though, SELF LOVE. Not because I’m bitter and single, but because I truly believe you can’t love anyone or anything unless you know and love yourself first. I’ve struggled with this most of my life and never really understood what it meant to sit with myself. I use to hate being alone. I use to need people around me to feel loved and distract myself from the fact that loneliness made me feel less than. Fast forward to today...uh yea...I LOVE and NEED my own space.

I understand connecting with people is important and your tribe helps get you through some really tough times. But how can you connect with others if it’s so hard to connect with yourself? You will always try and change to please others. Always lowering your standards and accepting whatever type of “love” because you aren’t connected to yourself. People ask, “how can people stay in fucked up relationships or abusive relationships and not leave?” Simple. Because they just want someone around. We have all been there. We have all had someone in our life that we KNEW wasn’t good for us. And we stayed. All because we weren’t loving ourselves enough to just leave. Self love gives you all the freedom you need. But sometimes we feel that we aren’t enough by ourselves. That something is missing. Something is missing, your love for yourself.

Being able to sit with myself and be obsessed with my own soul allows me to be pickier than ever. I can’t just hang with anybody and share my energy with just anybody. The key is to show true love to all people. But true love includes boundaries too. You can only know which boundaries to set if you spend time with yourself. Some of us have been so busy spending time with others that we don’t even know who we are once all those people disappear. Don’t be that person. Stay getting to know you. Fall in love with your own vibe. Fill yourself up and patch up your own wounds. Pay attention to what your soul likes and dislikes.

You won’t keep people around that don’t know how to love you, if you’re loving you.

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Yes, light will always attract moths but you don’t have to move in with the moths or marry them.

LOVE YOURSELF.

NEED YOURSELF.

WANT others.